If you intend to experience drama at its best, then adopt several pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had this kind of experience with my daughter and several her friends.
As soon as they experienced the automobile, I began to listen to things like:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He said he liked me and it was the most effective day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the senior high school kids."
"I will never, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the automobile ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in most of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The developed drama queen says things like:
"I have fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they want but me."
"I'm such a failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to perform? That was so humiliating."
Over time of being a woman and experiencing womanhood, I came to realize that individuals all have an episode queen that lives within us. It only becomes an issue when she is running the show. Dramacool
So, here really are a few tips for living at peace together with your inner drama diva:
1. Consider the drama, instead of from the drama
When you will find yourself being swept up into a dramatic moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe how the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Are you able to observe how drama adds a complexity to the problem?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. Rather than saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," an episode queen says, "I'm such a failure. I will never, ever learn math." Or, instead of saying "I ate a bag of Oreos," she will say, "I have fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the reality of the problem, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic likes to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her a little with proof. For example, when she claims that you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who've done that which you are attempting to do or find reasons why you can be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just really wants to be heard and seen. Give the indegent thing 5 or 10 minutes a day to accomplish her thing. I prefer to schedule in drama time when I can complain, exaggerate, cry, or simply just step out of my beautiful life for a few moments to have completely swept up in drama, but I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
All of us crave a little excitement within our lives. The issue occurs when we use our lives whilst the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that part of you who craves a huge production, try taking her to see a great show or read a great, trashy novel. You can walk away feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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